I can be always HAPPY?

The concept of Happiness probably is one of the controversial and complicated definitions more. Like other deep concepts of our lives (the fault, justice, the egoism), all we have an internal notion about what it means but, like those other ideas, to explain imply them subjectivity and therefore, unfortunately, the term “Happiness” so used in the daily speech, have meaning necessarily vague and somewhat different.

She turns out habitual to confuse “Happiness” with “Well-being” or “Being Contented”, for that reason many people tend to mistake the sense of the material goods in their lives, being thought that she will give a “Happiness them” that never find. Nevertheless some we have the sensation of which the “Well-being” is not comparable to the term “Happiness”, but this one seems to be a much more deep concept that so implies something longed for by many human beings as it is the “Stability”. In addition, many people conceptualizan the “Happiness” as absence of “Malaise” reason why from the scientific point of view would be advisable to limit the term and to mention the study of the “Subjective Well-being”.  This subjective well-being seems to be more related to congruence between the values and the commitment of making them, this effective allows to outside understand the “Happiness” like which it has to do with the own individual, leaving the vital events that produce satisfaction (although evidently they influence when the individual considers therefore it).

She turns out paradoxical to observe like many people who “have everything” usually are often extremely unfortunate and that people humble, or very poor, who live in subhuman conditions, with deprivations and shortages, comment her “Happiness” with joy. “To be Happy” she does not consist of the absence of problems or of difficulties, he is not something that is necessarily outside us. Indeed she is there where we considered is necessary to begin the search and where he would be desirable to find it, in our interior. The University of Wisconsin realised a study comparing information of 256 sensors connected to the brain of Mattieu Ricard (a French of 61 years, that decided to let its work of cellular geneticist in the prestigious Pasteur Institute of Paris to study the great teachers of the buddhism and to become personal adviser of Dalai Lama) to detect the levels of sensations like stress, annoyance, irritability, pleasure, satisfaction etc., with the obtained ones by hundreds of volunteers who participated in the study. The happiness levels were classified in a scale with values between -0,3 (very unfortunate) and 0,3 (very happy). Ricard obtained a 0,45 level fully surpassing the values of the registries obtained by the volunteers. The “happy Monk” as he knows himself him, defines the “Happiness” like “a treasure hidden in deepest of each person. To catch it is question of practice and force of will”.

To work to obtain for cash our desires, always rendering attention to our values, cheering us for the success of our loved beings, to try to help the others, etc., has been going to us to provide that “yearned for Inner Peace”, that “looked for Stability”, that pleasure that sometimes becomes spiritual, that form to feel us complete and contentments with we ourself. The “happiness” is the turn out of a continued effort to overcome the problems, an intense and constant work that extends in the time. The “happiness” is a full personal project of goals, the majority related to the personal satisfaction, the development of interpersonal abilities and love towards one same one.

The “happy Being” besides a mood, is a “constant Attitude” and we think that this one is an aspect that we can consider like fundamental and that, together with commenting the lines above, it makes us think that the more we know ourselves same, the more possibilities we are going to have to apply to our abilities and skills in the attainment of our objectives. This, that it has to do with the psychological term “Self-knowledge”, is very directly related to the one of “Wisdom”, in this case about we ourself, and as Epicurus said: “the one that is wise, is happy”.

Like conclusion and reflection, we considered essential for the understanding of the “Happiness” to as much pay attention to the positive aspects as to the negatives of the human operation, not understanding happiness like synonymous of well-being, if not rather like a congruence between the values and the behaviors of an individual in particular. The happiness, clearly, is very related to states of well-being, joy, passion, tranquillity, etc., but it does not exclude states from pain (I can be ill and I do not have why to stop being happy), of sadness (I can have suffered a loss and I do not have to stop being happy), of wrath or fear. “To be Happy” it is not a transitory mood as it can be the pleasure, the pain, the sadness or the joy, it is a “constant Attitude”, more would be related and so we called “Characteristic of Personality” and that maintains a stability temporary.

In essence, the idea that has been tried to transmit is that the “Happiness”, if as wishes to many we want it people to consider like something stable, we must relate it to the satisfaction felt by congruence between our personal values and our intention to carry out them, to the continued practice and the effort; the errors, failures, etc., are conceptualizados like learning source, are disagreeable but they do not prevent that it continues being “Happy”. In this way the “Stability” always is going to be under our control.

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